What the hell am I talking about? What is the bus stop? Well the bus stop to me is the people who are not on my bus or my journey, we have different journeys, at different times and I feel the bus stop is how I explain where everyone else is at!! Or they are on another bus…… With multiple people going in difference directions.. not on the same journey but we are sometimes sharing the same space.
I hear time and time again that we are all not on the bus! We are all not on this journey of self discovery, love, growth, authenticity! Some of us are just surviving and others are just not on the bus. I know I am a little further down the road than most and had a few stops and starts and sat at a few bus stops myself.. but I am on the bus and it is a journey! I really feel even people close to me are possibly on slightly different buses but we jump on and off each other’s constantly.. and we stay connected that way.
It is great when you get with people that are on the bus, when you talk to them, discover with them, work with them, but how do we survive when those people are not on the bus? I asked this question out loud because like most things or even most cultures, tribes, religions, groups, cults.. we kind of want everyone on the bus with us. But that will never be the case, so how do we make the bus stop comfortable? How do we make it an experience for all of us to enjoy? That is the million dollar question.
I agree that you need to be with and engage with people on the same journey, it does set you on fire and it assists with your own development, your own growth and honestly it just bloody makes the bus ride way more enjoyable. Well it does for me. I know I have stopped hanging out with people that are not on my ride or support my trip. These actions I choose to do at this point because I feel like I don’t have as much time to waste as I once did, or maybe I am just more passionate about my journey now, I believe in what I am doing and I trust that this is the right ride for me.
Day in and day out you gotta hang out there, you have to go to the stop to get on your bus.. and there is people that are not coming with you.. so how do we make that bus stop more comfortable? I have been sitting loosely with this and it has been a topic of discussion. The first thing that came to mind when I talked about making the bus stop comfortable was that I was going to clean it, I was talking to a mate on the bus and his response “standard Kylie style, are you going to Glen 20 it and clean it right up?” You know what, I am!!!! Then add some oils and crystals and we may even serve tea.. no wait we will serve tea!
So I can clean it, I can make it smell great, I can decorate it, I can put up colours but you know what, not everyone loves that. The more people I meet and the more I talk to I can see we are all at different stages. Some of us are keen to jump on the bus after you talk about it, some are not too sure and want to do their own thing for awhile.
So what do I? Acceptance, Acceptance, Acceptance! Why do I get so annoyed that friends, family, and other people can not see your growth and you’re changing and accept who you have become or who you are becoming. Why is it hard for me to accept where they are at in their life? So for me I start with acceptance. Secondly lets go with protection, I protect myself.. I do not have to sit and listen to abuse and harsh words. I am as important as my story is! I need to not return rejection with harsh words! Then there has to be love and understanding, love for where I am at and love for where they are at.. and lastly being ADAPTABLE AF! Things change so quickly and not every one has the rule book about the bus stop so adapt to the situation and work out what you need when things go wrong at your particular bus stop!
I have lost friends, they didn’t like my bus! It really hurts that there can’t be a mutual acceptance of each other’s journeys and accepting that we all need to get to our destination in our own time and in our own way. I sometimes sit on my bus and mourn… it is hard and sad and I try to give them the respect they need but if I keep trying to explain myself it does feel that I am speaking another language! They keep questioning me and just add their beliefs to what I am saying and the conversation becomes messed up.
Not everyone is on our journey and you know what, that is ok, I will respect and treat them with love just like I do with people on my journey. I won’t justify why I am there, I won’t sit there and agree with you or bag others on my journey to make it more comfortable for you.. what I will do is engage (in my clean surroundings hehehehe) sip some tea with you and show up with love and keep speaking my words! MY WORDS! Yep, I will keep saying my stuff, and maybe one day my words of love will hit a point that you will hop on the bus with me.
I will however let go and not try to hang onto people that don’t understand or accept. I will have an abundant amount of acceptance for my journey and for theirs, and I will have actions of grace! I feel to survive the bus stop we need a little bit of self protection, a little bit of a thick skin, a lot of acceptance, and a heart ready to believe and trust in the journey that we are on.. THERE ARE OTHERS OUT THERE ON YOUR BUS! Go be with your people.
To survive the ride and others at the bus stop, trust in yourself, follow your heart, be where you want to be! I am doing this and it is ok, I love the curiosity others have for my journey but I will respect every single persons journey.
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